My take on Compassionate Inquiry
Inquiring into inquiry...
In this work I allow you pain while BELIEVING IN you, I'm not worried, this is what Gabor calls fierce compassion. That’s right, there is discomfort involved in this, but only as much as is usable, it is a very gentle approach to our pain. In fact we become ever so soft and compassionate as people, and fierce and unstoppable.
The Quan Yin is a central inspiration here, the goddess of compassion. Who would have known that such allowing and softness is the core of strength and power?
In the processing of deep seated unreleased emotions, my job is to skillfully help you inquire while holding your findings with fierce compassion. This way of looking and listening inwardly becomes a part of your day-to-day life more and more and along with a deep relationship with yourself, you get a new experience of the possibilities in life, life opens up. It’s quite literally a different world, as hard it is to believe that.
It is an honor to be with my clients, to see them, people are art. I watch beauty unfold, like a one-of-a-kind flower, a human, a unique essence becoming free to be.
I help you resolve what's in the way of you being free to fully ENJOY who you are.
And you. are. beautiful. Wow. I promise…
When we enjoy who we are, who we are becomes even more of it, we grow. It's like our soul grows, and the joy to be and become is just the best most wonderful thing in the world.
Ask me about the Taste-of-Compassion Package for getting an understanding of what this process has to offer you.
The process
of unfolding
What we find inside may be daunting, perhaps it’s a fire of rage, or a sea of sadness, or maybe even an empty tomb of numbness. I don’t usually have clients coming in and finding oodles of joy right under the surface, hence why they are in my office. But as we practice that inquiring compassionately, we allow the floodgates of the seas to slowly open, and the fire to finally burn bright. Things get lighter, more clear.
From the outside it looks about like this:
I offer you a grounding exercise to get present and into your body, and after setting a clear intention for your session I ask you questions, you answer, or you don't, you never have to. Everything is permission based, it’s very important that you are in control of the navigation, everything I come with is an offering of inquiry with fierce compassion. I’m the co-pilot, and you’re the pilot.
Certain principles are maintained during a Compassionate Inquiry session. These are:
- If the session is online, the client makes sure to have a private, uninterrupted and comfortable space for the duration of the session (not in a car), with stable internet.
- The client is encouraged to bring a specific intention to each session.
- The client determines how much to engage in the session and may request to pause or stop at any time.
- The practitioner may interrupt the client during the session to bring the client into awareness of the present moment and to body sensations and emotions.
- The practitioner follows the subtle cues of the client.
- The practitioner may slow the pace of the session.
When we get life as a game, as in the game of basketball, we don't seek out the weakest players to whoop over and over, we enjoy when the game brings more from us than has been brought from us before. What a thrill when we are soaring along our new edge of agility and freedom, a new world of possibilities.
There truly are some muddy waters to trudge through, don't get me wrong, but who knew that pain and pleasure could be so intertwined in a process of healing? The deeper one senses, the blurrier the difference becomes, turning into just being, is-ness, truth, presence. Many words point to it, yet none are it, and there you are.
What does a free session of demonstration entail???
Please see the form above for details but in short: I, as a practitioner, have the privilege of witnessing the most profound and beautiful transformations, and I want to share some of this with the world. I offer free sessions that are recorded, and I share snippets and full sessions on YouTube and social media platforms. Feel free to reach out to me if you want to ask more questions about it, I'm happy to talk!
Only when compassion is present will people allow themselves to see the truth.
AH Almaas
Paying attention is the most basic and profound expression of love.
Tara Brach
